You wake up in the morning, head to the bathroom, shower, brush your teeth and clean your tongue with your TUNG Brush and Gel. You look over, and there is your partner – all dressed and heading out the door for the day. Wait!!! He didn’t brush his teeth! YUCK, you think – how is that possible? How can anyone not brush his or her teeth every day!?!?
Good habits start early
Have you thought about asking your partner if his mom or dad took him to the dentist regularly when he was a child? Perhaps she wasn’t taught good oral hygiene at home either. The patterns established in childhood can continue throughout adulthood. But that doesn’t mean they can’t change!
Don’t be mean – but be honest
Whatever you do, remember that any subject that broaches hygiene is difficult and can be embarrassing. Think about how hard it might be to tell someone she needs deodorant, right? Well, the same idea holds true for telling someone their teeth are yellow or their breath is stinky. And remember, too, that your partner may just become super-defensive and jump down your throat. Stay calm and remind him that this is for his own good, stress health, appearance etc. Don’t make it about you. And remember – you may have to have this conversation more than once.
Use a visual to help him or her understand
While you are having your quiet conversation, bring a mirror. Assuming that your partner’s teeth are yellow or decaying, let him or her see what he or she looks like to others. And, while you are at it, have some evidential facts with you. Let your partner know the statistics of tooth loss and gum decay that result from poor hygiene.
Call in the pros!
You may just have to drag your partner to a dentist, but it might provide him with the scientific and objective explanation of how his lack of care is deleterious to his health. And a professional cleaning and exam might be the best way to kick-start a new at-home oral hygiene regime.
When all else fails – remember to stress how much you love your partner! Give your partner a big kiss even if you cringe a little 😉…them remind him or her how much better those kisses will be if you BOTH take care of your mouths!
So what if your partner still doesn’t brush his/her teeth even though they know the pros and cons?? My partners breath smells like shit and it’s destroying our sex life. I can not be aroused when all I smell
Is shit
Well to be honest, why are you still with him? No way I would even date someone who doesn’t take care of his teeth, let alone live with him. I don’t understand some of you women…why don’t you leave him??? To me it’s a deal breaker if someone doesn’t have good hygiene.
You can love someone dearly even though they don’t brush. My husband is so loving and devoted. He doesn’t brush because of severe psychological problems, but that doesn’t mean I would ever leave him. I love the man.
Omg same! Did you figure out how to help your partner with routinely brushing their teeth? Im struggling trying to get my husband to brush. I think it’s been almost a week and he finally brushed today cause I asked. It also doesnt help that he smokes. And it does upset him when I make him brush his teeth and shower before we get intimate. I dont want to act like his parent telling him to brush, but something needs ro change. When we dated he always smelled good. Now married 3 yrs and 2 kids he needs to be an example.
Did your partner start brushing after telling him??
My 52 year old girlfriend won’t regularly brush her teeth and her breath constantly stinks so bad! She is always want sex, which is great, but her mouth smells like a sewer! When I try to tactfully talk to her about it, she makes it out that I’m being unreasonable; obviously she doesn’t care that her breath smells like shit…it is so nasty!
I feel you Larry. I’ve been married almost 8 years and my wife has not been to the dentist the entire duration. When I get ready in the morning, I brush my teeth alongside our 2 children. My wife is all dressed and and ready to leave. I always notice her toothbrush is drier than the Sahara. I cannot remember the last time I saw her brush her teeth, even though she insists she does. Her bottom row of teeth are all jacked up and I notice it when she’s talking. She doesn’t take criticism well and tends to fly off the handle so I ignore it. But this is getting out of hand. It is affecting my attraction to her. I am very attracted to cleanliness and a woman who takes care of her body.
I don’t know how to approach her about this..
I’m over asking .. he can stink
My husband would go for weeks without brushing. Now he brushes once a day!!! Big improvement, but still eats sugar at night and doesn’t brush. So he still brought home 2 cavities from dentist! So i was upset and ended up nagging then feeling guilty! The situation is much improved, thank God.
Can you get disease or bacteria from someone doesn’t brush their teeth when they give you oral sex???
Yes. Yeast infections galore. I speak from experience as someone who dated someone with an unclean mouth for awhile. We broke up and the infections stopped immediately.
I know what your talking about my partner does not care that he stinks like shit we don’t kiss because I can’t stand it sec sucks too he ain’t going any where near me with that much bacteria in his mouth it’s killing the relationship
Haha this made me laugh jut I can soooo relate. I’ve just split with mine and I finally plucjed up the courage to tell him as I didn’t smell his breath for couple of months.. He was using gum ect.. When I started to smell it I nearly vomited yet each day for weeks and weeks he would leave for work. His tooth brush literally has dust on it. I felt it a total lack of respect for me
my boyfriend gave me a yeast infection because he gave me head and didn’t brush his teeth ! I told him and he was very embarrassed but it had to be done .. gross !
I think it’s a lack of respect I can’t sit anywhere near mine one close to calling it quits his breath makes our room stink he smells like an old person at my work
LMFAO
Dump him
I agree it’s day 25 and I e asked him to do it in day 15 I even said it’s destroying us he still didn’t do it he just learned near and I lost it and told his breath stinks . He won’t care he won’t brush them I’m sitting back counting the days now I’m over it he smells like shit
I know how you feel our sex live is over he smells like shut and I near vomit this time it’s been 7 weeks and I’m sick of asking I’m not his mother I can’t get close to him it makes me sick
Im going through this with my baby momma. Ive got a 6 month old. Its driving me crazy and she begs for sex nonstop. Ive told her numerous times how this is affecting me and our relationship still its worse than a child. I could MAKE a child but what do I do with a grown woman who refuses. Do I just up and leave my 6 mo. old child or take him from her. Grrrrrr
My partner is worse than a child I’m over asking him I’m not his mother !! I can’t even sit near him as he stinks
I like to think I take care of my teeth. I brush in the morning and brush and floss at night and rinse with listerine. It is my daily ritual whether I feel like it or not. My husband, on the other hand, does not brush his teeth. I can’t say “never” actually as there may be occasions…but he will go weeks. To put it in perspective he has had the same tube of Aquafresh cinnamon flavored tooth paste for 3 years now! I check it to gauge progress but there usually isn’t any. I have hinted that bacteria can get in to his blood stream and could affect his heart but to no avail. Some days are horrible when he kisses me! Love him to deathbed I don’t understand this behavior.
Your better than me I can’t kiss mine even get near him it sickens me the smell makes me near dry reach
Why are men so screwed up? Why is it always women who have to change? Be understanding? I have been with men from Harvard; neurologists, auto workers and undertakers. They are all the same. First they love bomb you. Then they get in your pants. Move in and then become oppositional 11 year olds suffer from erectile dysfunction and poo in their pants. For better or worse. Most of it is worst.
It’s hardly an issue with the male sex. It’s a psychological inconsistency that causes the brain to deteriorate to a point where it doesn’t believe that it is required anymore. This specific problem is also a tributary from many neurological complications, such as depression. This being so, statistically, women are more susceptible to neurological disorders, or at least, suffering from them to a greater extent, which, by default makes these complications more common for women. A poor past relating to the male sex, such as what you seem to covey, hardly provides grounds for the accusations that you put forth.
Wow I can relate to all of you. It sucks because I love him to death. But I don’t understand his neglect when it comes to personal hygiene. It is some kind of mental illness? Stemming from depression? Like does putting effort into brushing teeth and showering make them feel too vulnerable? Is it denial? Or is it just pure lazy childish bullshit.. I always make him brush his teeth and shower from now on if there is going to be any intimacy. Some days I get so frustrated. He is lucky he doesn’t smell bad. Despite his unhealthy habits he eats very healthfully.
OMG, so i work with a guy who used to tell me his girlfriend wouldn’t brush her teeth regularly causing. baddd breath and i thought “ew yuck?” well low and behold my boyfriend is becoming the same way and i just told him he needs to brush more and he said well sometimes i don’t feel like it. i asked “can’t you feel the plaque on your teeth????” he says no i feel fine. OMG i brush my teeth religiously and he can’t even do it once a day. i told him i don’t wanna kiss him because its so bad. i felt terrible but i finally had to say it!! the smell of his breath made me nauseous as hell. YUCK so sad this is driving me apart from him, cant do it anymore
Gingivitis is contagious, yes you can get a infection and no its not a mental disorder. Like the article says it starts with the parents, blame them for your unhygienic loser. This morning i was woken up by the smell of sewer. My boyfriend swears up and down he brushes but i know he only uses mouthwash because the smell never goes away. We do not kiss, if he breaths on me we are going to have a fight. It’s absolutely repulsive and i break up with him constantly. He is a really nice guy to me but I can’t remember the last time we has passionate anything.
lmaooooooooooooooooooooo hahahahaaa! I nearly fell out laughing at this lol its true. My girlfriend does NOT like to brush her teeth. She even has braces to support her teeth to stop it from falling out and she still only likes to brush in the morning SOMETIMES and she does not floss or brush at night. She has a 10 year old daughter whose mouth is FILTHY to the point where her gums are swollen and bleeding. Her teeth is rotten inside of her gum and she has a double row. The child told me that she is too lazy to brush her teeth and I see why. Her mother is equally lazy! After complaining about tooth aches I mentioned the risks of improper hygiene. Yet they both still do not brush at night or floss and when I urged the child to brush her teeth her mother stepped in immediately after 8pm and asked “does it have to be this minute?”. They both went to bed that night and every night thereafter without brushing their teeth. It’s intentional and her mother is defiant and is petty and touchy. Always defiant and feels as though nobody can tell her what to do. So I left them both and pay no attention to them and kept on with my ritual. My girlfriend got upset and said “you don’t touch or kiss me anyway” and I said “maybe because you do not take care of yourself properly!”. She didn’t say anything after and kept right on neglecting her personal hygiene and her daughter’s as well. I am about to break up with her shortly, in my mind we are already done!
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Its called love. When you love someone you want better for them. You look out for them. You care for them. Not leave when they dont meet your standards. Maybe your standards are to high. And maybe that’s what wrong people nowadays. People need to give more love. AND stop judging. No one’s perfect.
I agree that when you love someone you must look out for them. I finally got my husband to brush once a day and consider that a victory, but some days, I get so angry and frustrated. Then feel so much guilt
LMAO…good basic hygiene like brushing your teeth regularly is considered having standards that are too high??? It’s basic common sense! You can catch their bacteria from their dirty mouth and they may not live long as bacteria from a mouth infection can get into their bloodstream and lead to heart problems.
My husband doesn’t brush his teeth and goes months without showering. The room stinks even after he leaves it. I’ve asked him to take showers mor often and brush his teeth and he won’t do it. We haven’t been intimate in almost 4 years.